How to Lose Friends & Alienate People

We see many people around us everyday. And we relate ourselves with them through various relations - family, friends, best friends, wife , husband, son,daughter ... the list is never ending. Some People people stick with us throughout the life whom we call family. Maybe it is how the world exists. Some people find us inside themselves and come near to us, they are friends. And very few cross the boundary of resistance which we draw around us , enter in our lives and becomes the necessity of our life. We never know the growth of affection for them and they become best friends. It is a very revolving process wherein we took lots of time to have such feeling for those fellas. And suddenly as day passes by we feel the bonding getting stronger and stronger and suddenly time comes (which we never know) when we start telling , suggesting everything to them, the smallest thing which we do, we feel like taking their opinion. May be this is what people call as Best Friends.

It takes months of journey , may be years to feel that he / she is the one and we with each passing day we become so casual , we stop thinking things from their perspective, with having the belief that they are us, we are them. And this is the phase when unknowingly you start alienating your best friends. We always have the confidence that he doesn't need our special show of affection as he understands us as we do ourselves. And he starts feeling the sense of ignorance which of course is not true. And this is the time when they start drifting away , you without knowing that what is happening. It starts from very small things , you start feeling that you are being ignored but in fact the reality is that your friends are drifting away as you do not have time for them, as if you no more care for them . Some people are very good at it who behave based on the nature of their friends, but the unlucky ones doesn't realize it and when they realize they feel so ashamed of themselves that they just cant stand it and start suffering the loneliness , cursing themselves, making points to prove themselves. The more they get involved in such things the more they get drifted away. It ultimately disappoints them, discourages them , the friends think that they shouldn't have given him that place and there comes the end.

Here starts the process of loosing friends and alienating people. We reach to the point where there is no come back . Whole life we have to live with the guilt feeling that we couldn't save the friends whom we would have treasured and it leaves a strong itching feeling deep inside the heart. We meet with the same people everyday , do pleasantries and show as if nothing has happened , without knowing or understanding the feelings of those around us, the same-ones who use to make out things with our face seems strangers. The same people whom we believed we understand very well becomes alien for us. We meet but the same boundary wall comes between us which has taken months / years of time to break. The pain of loosing them hurts a lot but we start living with it because none other than us have alienated them.

Changes are inevitable. The friends are the same , but the attitude has changed. We still are friends and share things , may be hide our secrets now, the same secrets which at some point of time was the ,ost important thing to share, and we behave as nothing has happened , though knowing deep inside that the affection has somehow decreased from either side. And the worst is we cannot do anything, may be this is the way life goes on, we take years to build a bridge and a small torment act drift people away from us.

There is nothing right or wrong here, its just a way of nature to give us experience in life, to make us feel that we cannot avoid almighty's presence in life. If HE had sent that friend as a saviour in life , HE can take it away whenever HE wants and we just have to accept it.

Life goes on... SOmetimes we alienate friends sometimes we get alienated, either way we both get hurt. If given a chance we should always try to rectify the mistakes which we had made, even if sometimes we feel that we were right, we should acknowledge it as our mistake to save the precious gems of our lives. If we do not do it, or get late in accepting it, I bet we loose. We lose the ones with whom we had enjoyed the best of our times, who had brought out the best of us and have branded us the best...

Never be late, else afterwards you always end up searching what could have made you Lose the friends and Alienate people.